2. TO SMASH OR NOT TO SMASH
Sometime before making your way to your wedding cake and picking up the serving pieces, the question should arise: To smash or not to smash? For some, it seems integral to starting off the marriage on the right foot. They believe that whoever smashes the greatest quantity of cake in their partner’s face will have more control in the marriage. We wish them well…
For others, the grooms, in particular, smashing the cake in their beloved’s face can be the quickest route to honeymooning on the couch, a lonely place. The grooms are frequently the most hesitant as to whether or not they should smear the cake on their new spouse. Somehow, they have not been able to deduce whether the blushing bride will appreciate the joke.
Often, however, to smash or not to smash is a completely spontaneous decision—making it all the more eventful. Either scenario brings out immediate responses. Our members believe that this spontaneity is actually what brings cake cutting photos to life, saying that the best photos they take are when the bride and groom let their guards down and show their real emotions. These true displays of emotion are often unexpected, particularly when the bride and groom are quieter or reserved. However, the cake cutting always seems to bring out the couple’s real feelings and sense of fun and allows them to express themselves without inhibition. It also always makes for an exciting, action-packed photograph!
Our member photographers are no strangers to this cake-cutting dynamic, noting that any number of unanticipated events can occur, from guests banding together to hold down the groom for the bride to have a clear and open shot, to couples coming away covered in in frosting and cake, sometimes even taking a toll on hair and makeup. Speaking again to the lack of inhibition that consistently seems to come over the couple during the cake cutting, they seem not to care at all about all those meticulous hours of planning and getting themselves ready once the prospect of shoving cake in one another’s faces is in their hands. However, it is for this exact same reason that our members recommend that you know, ideally in advance, what your limits will be; where will you draw the line and what are you willing to potentially sacrifice for your grown-up food fight. Some members said that when their prospective clients see pictures of grooms plastering the bride’s face with cake, they tell their fiancés to not even think about it.
If getting smeared with cake is not what you anticipated when you said your “I dos,” then there are other ways to keep the cake cutting from getting out of hand. WPJA members have noticed that usually when the cake is brought out earlier in the evening, the entire event remains well organized and in control. Conversely, when it happens late in the evening (when libations may have been freely flowing for a longer time), things can get a little crazy.